by Aderonke Adebanjo
- “I wouldn’t be able to respect him”: A lot of women who say they can’t marry a younger guy say they would struggle majorly with respecting him. They say that if he said or did anything (typically something stupid silly), something that an older guy could also do, because he is younger, they would attribute it to his age and lose respect for him. They would also struggle with submitting to him and basically allowing him to take the lead.
- “My parents would never allow me to marry him”: Even though I said earlier that times have changed and tradition has evolved, there are some parents who are still VERY traditional and would never allow their daughter to marry a younger guy. Perhaps because they feel it is wrong, weird, and untraditional. Basically, how can the head of the home be younger than his wife? So based on family pressure, many women don’t even give a younger guy a chance.
- “He is inexperienced”: This kinda ties in with not being able to respect him. Some women feel like while he might be a great guy in some regard, his inexperience with life compared with hers would make them incompatible. She believes he wouldn’t be able to relate with her or even her friends in some respect because he lacks experience in the school of life.
- “What would my friends think?”: The weird looks, the disbelief (even though it’s not so unbelievable these days), the lack of respect for him, the “cougar” talk, and all the other reactions from her friends can keep a girl from an otherwise great guy. Simply put peer pressure and concern of the opinion of others could make a girl give up on a great guy.