Lately, something in the air has been putting what God joined together asunder. Heartbreak is a common phenomenon for all who have dared to share their feelings with someone else, and even the singletons are not immune to this (those with situationships must be shaking right now).

Relationships are ending at almost every corner you turn, and though we cannot say it is a good thing, because like D’Banj said, “love is a beautiful thing”, there are times when you and your lover will eventually grow apart.

It can be difficult to build yourself back up when your significant other says they are no longer interested in continuing on the journey of life with you, and from there, it begins to feel like the weight of the world is crashing on you, and you have nowhere to turn to.

Finding your ground after a breakup can be hard work; heartbreak is a nasty thing to deal with, and there is no specific time frame to get over a heartbreak, but many have suggested ways to build yourself back up and move on with life.

In this article, we have researched and discovered—through practice (plausible deniability), the best ways to get over heartbreak when it seems like there is nothing left to do but sit in a dark room and wallow.

With these steps, healing a broken heart should be a smooth trip.

Here are the 8 ways to get over your heartbreak.

1. Embrace your feelings

The first step to healing is embracing your feelings, and though it sounds easier said than done, you will understand that pretending you are okay when you are not will do more harm than good. You should acknowledge your feelings, the good and the bad; you have just been through a breakup; let the tears flow and the sense of sadness pass through you.

2. Remove anything that reminds you of your ex

It should go without saying that one of the ways to get over your heartbreak is to remove anything that reminds you of your ex. In this instance, it could be photos on social media, your phone, their things with you, and anything else that might physically remind you of their importance in your life. Every time you come across something of theirs, you will sadly be reminded of its memories and them.

3. Seek closure in the way you can

It is advised to block your ex on social media; you don’t want to see them posting pictures or videos about how life is going for them while you are a wallowing mess. The best thing to do for yourself is to block them on all social media platforms so you can focus on your healing journey. You can write out your feelings about your relationship with your ex, but do not mail it or send it to them; you can healthily seek closure.

4. Talk to a professional or your friends

Keeping to yourself is no way to get over your heartbreak healthily, so it is best to talk to someone you can trust to be confidential about your feelings. You can assess your emotions with them and talk about how you felt in the relationship and out of it. Talk about what has changed and how you are going through the changes. There’s a saying that goes, “No man is an island”, and that applies to heartbreak. Do not see your emotions as a burden, and if you would rather not talk to your friends, then perhaps speak to a professional whose job is to listen and advise you on how to get over your heartbreak.

5. Find yourself by pursuing new hobbies

It is best to find interest in new things that will take your mind off your breakup and open you up to a new life. The world is full of many opportunities that are yours to choose from. Get back to the way life was for you before your relationship, and find a rhythm or anything that will replace the space of pain and sadness in your heart. Make new friends, attend parties, try out unique hobbies, and you will be glad not to have stayed in your room all day, eating ice cream, drinking liquor and scrolling through pictures of you and your ex.

6. Focus on yourself

You must remember that healing from a breakup does not happen in a single day, week or month, especially if you were in a long-term relationship. During your healing phase, you must also remember that you matter first above all else; whatever you are going through is valid and not something to look over. Make sure that you are alright before you attempt to do anything else. Ensure you are eating well, exercising, redecorating your home, listening to music and podcasts, and getting good sleep. You do not have to look like what you are going through; go shopping for new clothes, cologne and anything that would make you look and feel good.

7. Do not judge yourself in the process of healing

While recognising and accepting the faults in your relationship, you should never forget not to judge yourself, for nothing good will benefit from that action. Accept that things cannot be changed, and what is gone is gone.

8. It is now time to move on

Moving on is no easy feat when you have spent what must have felt like a lifetime with someone. It is time to dust off your feet and pack the bags as you move on. Whether or not you were the one who initiated the breakup, you have to accept that some things do happen in life, and it is best to admit that it is over rather than remain in limbo with your ex, wondering if they can still take you back.