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10 reasons he’s not the man for you

by Paul Carrick Brunson

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If you like the potential of whom he could be, rather than the reality of who he is, he’s just not for you.

A few weeks ago, I wrote a piece titled “10 Signs He Has What It Takes to Be Your Husband,” and from reading this post, one might think that if their guy doesn’t have those characteristics, he isn’t the right guy… period. But, I’m here to tell you that it’s a little more complicated than that. Allow me to explain. Keep reading, and I’ll help you identify 10 ways to recognize that he’s wrong for you.

Its All About Potential

If you like the potential of whom he could be, rather than the reality of who he is, he’s just not for you.

You Can’t Be Yourself

If you act differently around him than you do with your friends and family, you’re in the wrong place. Find someone who lets you be yourself.

You’re In Denial

Whatever the issue is, if you are working hard to deny facts about your relationship that you know to be true, then you are dating the wrong person.

He’s Already Taken

Sorry, I have to be clear with this. If he’s dating, engaged, or married to someone else, he DOES NOT belong to you.

The Cons Outweight the Pros

Write down the advantages of continuing to date him. Then list the disadvantages. If the latter list wins, it means he is a loss.

You’re Insecure

If you’re only with him because you’re afraid of being alone, you can do bad by yourself.

The Relationship Needs A Wrench

If you spend your time trying to fix him, please realize this is a fruitless activity. We only have the ability to change ourselves. Let him fix himself, first. He’s wrong for you at this time.

You Don’t See Him

If he’s “just too busy” to see you, it means he has higher priorities than you. Let him date himself.

He Doesn’t Mesh With Your Circle

If, in order for the relationship to work, you need to cut yourself off from family and friends, you have the wrong guy.

Your Gut’s Telling You to Get Out

Our subconscious is trained to guide us, listen to it. If it’s telling you to leave him, it’s time to leave.

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