Though I’m not an advocate of pre-marital sex, I admit it is a reality in our society today so I’m not preaching that you stop but that you gain a deeper understanding of what your D represents and stop relating with it merely as a means to the giving and receiving of sexual pleasure. That would be a terrible waste.
I truly wish there’s a way to keep the ladies out of this post so I can write while you read, as brothers; but it’s a risk we’ll take and hope that our female counterparts will understand.
Something happens to every full-blooded and virile male upon waking each morning – we have erections. Many reasons are given for this from wet dreams of the boyhood years to a full bladder. Sadly, some of us think it’s a physiological ratification of the benefits of early morning sex.
To fully understand this, we need to examine what our manhood (I’m talking little jimmy down there so let’s just call it D.) represents. Farm animals and pets are castrated most times to modify behaviour and curb aggression. Castrated animals are generally more docile than animals that are not castrated; this establishes a definite link between little jimmy and your virile, aggressive behaviour.
Furthermore, the main hormone responsible for why we act as men is called ‘testosterone’ and is mostly produced in the testicles which we call the balls or ‘cojones’. Its what makes our voices crack in puberty and helps us to grow beards.
When you wake any morning then and little jimmy seems its in the mood for some action, it’s actually a charge to virility, to manhood. It’s a sign that you’re not only a man but also that you need to get up and do what you have to do. It’s a call to duty.
When a child is born, the easiest way to determines its sex is by the genitals. One look down there and the doctor or nurse announces: ‘it’s a boy!’ to the delight of the parents. It’s not just about what they see though but what it represents. It’s your identity to yourself and whoever you choose to reveal it to. It’s a visible affirmation and also one from within that one is a male.
But it goes beyond that, at puberty when your D enlarges and takes a more robust shape, it’s telling you that you are ready physically to be a father. Psychologically, it’s saying to you that you have now acquired the physical traits of of man and must get ready to face challenges like a man. You must prepare to do great things. That’s what your D stands for.
You know sometimes when you face situations that seem threatening or when you accomplish something major, subconsciously, you touch your D. There’s just so much about it that goes beyond sex. When you restrict your D to just the attainment (and the impartation) of sexual pleasure, you lose so much of the essence of why you have it.
One of the first motivational books I ever came across was Napoleon Hill’s THINK AND GROW RICH and in the eleventh chapter, he spoke about ‘the mystery of sex transmutation’ where he made two salient points. First, that most men do not really ‘hit their pace’ until they attain the age where sexual activity is reduced and also that men with high sex drive tend to get more for their effort. While there may be no scientific evidence of this, I know for certain that the internal sexual drive is the force behind much of the creativity we see in the arts and in sciences. Some business men claim they actually have erections when they are involved in high-stakes negotiations and deals (and it’s not to say they’re perverted).
It is also well known that a man is more likely to want sex when he is feeling very satisfied with himself and his world. I do not know but I heard a rumour that one of the greatest statesmen in Nigeria, now dead, stopped having sexual relations in mid-life and produced many great political theories for Nigeria. When a man is stressed, it seems the D doesn’t respond so well to sexual stimulation.
Though I’m not an advocate of pre-marital sex, I admit it is a reality in our society today so I’m not preaching that you stop but that you gain a deeper understanding of what your D represents and stop relating with it merely as a means to the giving and receiving of sexual pleasure. That would be a terrible waste.
So, if you know the value of your D, don’t just keep whipping it out whenever just any girl comes around to see you. Reserve it for some special one (or ones if you really can’t help it). Some men get their best ideas during sexual activity only because they are emotionally ‘plugged’ into those women of power who open up their soul to them through association. When your sex drive colours your work, it makes it come alive with passion. You can use the feeling to push yourself forward…that’s another reason to stop pursuing the ladies.
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Nice piece