by Mayowa Ogundele
I have never heard of a man or woman who married their partner simply because the sex was astronomical.
As crazy as people get for sex, it’s usually always NOT reason enough to get married. People may marry for money, fame, “God said”, connection…. but, hardly for sex. Often times, great sex is a great incentive.
That’s for some folks though….
So, if we realise that great sex is never the deciding factor for marriage… why do people dishonour themselves, while single. “I married her because the sex is great”, said no groom in history.
So, if we realise that great sex is never the deciding factor for marriage… why do people dishonour themselves, while single.
Without a doubt, I am pro-celibacy until marriage. However, I agree that sex is important. It has to be…for God to say we should wait until marriage.
When I say important, I mean – important for baby-making and important for the pleasure it brings.
(BTW, I think a cock’s favourite pastime is sex… that’s why he will chase the hen to the ends of the earth for it. Lol)
Back to what I was saying… many people say they engage in pre-marital sex so they can be experienced. Once upon a time, I foolishly expected my husband-to-be to be experienced, so that wedding night would be eventful.
Now, I know better.
If you gain all the experience in the world and still marry someone who’s not so great in bed, you are setting yourself up for frustration, infidelity,…. a broken home.
(PS: You may live under the same roof and still have a broken home).
So… what’s the way forward for those who agree that sex is important but have chosen to do the right thing by waiting…
Get creative!
The desire for sex is natural… expressing yourself in that regard would also be natural. You don’t have to sleep around first and neither do you have to subscribe to pornography.
Talk to your partner about sex… before marriage. I think people that are engaged should also talk about sex. What they think of it and what to make of it.
If your man or woman has potential of being a wild cat…find out and get ready 😉
(Caveat: Don’t have this discussion in a private place o. Don’t tempt yourselves).
There are also books by Christian writers on sex. Try one of those.
When you are married, you are legal… so feel free to explore and show your partner your wild side. Leave the speaking in tongues and bible quoting things and get down to freaky business. Lol.
(My pastor must not see this).
Anyway, this is what I think. That we choose to be children of light does not mean we cannot enjoy God’s gift to the fullest measure. Yes we can!
One final word… SEX IS NOT A DIRTY THING. It is only dirty when you do it wrongly.
What do you think?
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Mayowa Ogundele is a journalist and a news presenter at Channels Television, She blogs at ohluwamayowa.wordpress.com and tweets from @Ohluwamayowa
You have no brain. It’s ridiculous! For a ‘journalist’ (and I use that term loosely) this is all you could write to support your argument. I read part one. Mtschewwwwwwwww! Please go and get laid and get over yourself.
And oh, I sure hope that’s not you in a pink dress??? I can see some cleavage!!! That should be for your husband alone! Its too short and too sexy. I mean, aint you meant to be a Xtian?!
You know this is what tires me about us Xtians; our sanctimonous attitude on every issue.
You got it all so very wrong. While I’d never tweet something so private like Sugabelly did nor support it, I’d never do this same thing you did. This…show of spiritual or moral superiority (or whatever this is).
Let’s not even go into the fact that you picked out a single tweet and ignored whatever she was saying, what makes you think she’s a Christian or wants to be bound by Christian virtues? I like many other people (and Christians too) saw that tweet and moved on. That’s not bcos we are not bold enough to preach what is right, that’s respecting someone else’s space and opinion. She was tweeting about herself afterall. But no, people like you just have to advise and preach at sinners like her.
I’ve learnt to block people who tweet things am uncomfortable with not preach at them at why their tweets are not in conformity with my Christian beliefs.
One very important thing I’ve learnt in my little Christian walk is that people usually would listn to what you have to say when you approach them in a friendly manner and not when you stand to condemn them. I think you should learn that too.
I think you’ve said enough madam christian,you can preach all you like but take the ‘dear sugabelly blah blah” out of it or shouldn’t christians seek peace too?