Violence against women is just not right. There is no other way to say it.
Its 4:15am, and HE and SHE are at it again. He has just slapped her and I heard something break. I also heard soft cries followed by another slap. SHE is crying louder now. From the mosque opposite, the Imam is already calling the faithful for prayers and his voice is loud over the speaker but I can still hear HER cry. I hear more things break and it’s really getting uncomfortable, but this is the pattern every day.
By 5 o’clock the chaos usually calmed down, probably because more neighbours were awake then and some may perhaps be bold enough to go and knock. Once a neighbour went to make peace but came out with a lump on his cheek instead. Another neighbour missed the swerve of a wooden ladle by some seconds.
By 7 o’clock, is had become a custom to spot HER in sunshade, holding a school uniformed kid in one hand and an office bag in the other. SHE would greet neighbours in very high spirits and encourage her kid to wave at elders. Soon after she has gotten in a taxi, house maids from different flats would gather and ask about her sanity. They would say; “abi he don jazz her? If na me I go run comot with my pikin.”
We would wait and wait for HIM to come out, go to work or shop or even just buy a newspaper. He never did. It was a mystery what he did inside all day…
I try to understand the thoughts behind the man’s actions. I am perplexed and beyond shocked, that a man would beat a woman who is supposed to be his wife or partner. Maybe HE sees her as a younger sister. But even if she were, beating her to the extent of breaking stuff is just completely unacceptable.
Violence against women is just not right. There is no other way to say it. It as a matter of fact shows weakness on the side of the man. Debatably, it’s already a man’s world we live in. So hitting a woman just draws out whatever iota of confidence she ever had, especially when the one beating her is the same whose duty is to protect her. It is shocking that any man would look at any lady and be that much appalled that hitting her is his way out. For me it’s just sheer disrespect and complete cowardice on the man’s part.
It’s shocking that SHE has never reported this physical abuse to anyone. Perhaps SHE was living in denial, because, I am thinking even rich, popular, and famous guys (yes Chris Brown I’m talking about you) were reported, so what was it about her? Since SHE won’t talk, we all gossiped about it. But SHE’s dying. First her style dies. Looking good matters less since she’s dehumanised at home. Her enthusiasm fades – even for her child. She is motivated to do nothing and has no opinion of her own. Her lights are going out. She is completely battered – body and soul.
Next day swings by with the normal clamour. As usual the beating, vandalising and crying ends by 5. But by 7 there is no SHE in sunshades holding her child, instead for the first time, there is HE driving out as fast as possible. By 8:30 SHE is found on the floor by a curious neighbour in the pool of her own blood. By 9, I am late for work but I am sitting with the neighbours and “association of housemaids.” We are all saying the same thing this time. We should have spoken up. We should have saved one of our own.