Chinonso Ogbogu: This is a brief gossip about my love life … What about yours?

The truth is that you and I have been called to search for our own zone. And when we do find it, we are expected to spend our lives living within it.

Searching and falling in love with her, for me, is the best thing since sliced bread. She is statuesque, intelligent, and her presence offers my soul a good size of joie de vivre. Her voice is dulcet, and her lips are bold and beautiful – they always light up my bulb! Anytime I spend time with her, I forget about time and I find myself drifting on cloud nine, yet with no parachute (who cares about parachute!).

She makes me go to bed late in the night and makes me wake up very early in the morning, all because of her pristine love. Simply put, na she dey charge my battery full. Believe me; I could go a whole day without food as long as she’s there with me. If you know me very well, you’ll agree that I carry her everywhere I go. In fact, because I love her so dearly and I really want the world to know, I brag about her on the street, in the office, at home, at church, in the midst of my buddies, and now on Facebook.

Well, I had never fallen in love before, and I really wanted to … but I didn’t know how, not until I found her. So don’t mind me if I’m acting quite puerile … that’s just the power of my love.

At first, we both started out as neighbours then we became friends and gradually we became lovers. When I first saw her, I was seated alone by the porch thinking about what life holds for me and my future. Somehow, I knew a rib was missing in my life, and I knew I needed to find it. Though when she first walked pass by me, I didn’t really know she was my missing rib, but then, eventually I finally knew! And ever since then, both of us have experienced true existence.

Sure, I have been in some few relationships before I found her, but none of those provided me with the sense of fulfillment, passion, and strength that she does. There is something about her that is unique – she is just my kind. When I first introduced her to my family members, they were a bit apprehensive. But gradually, seeing the strong love I have for her, they began to give me their full support and blessings. And just in case you’re wondering, yes of course, she loves me too.

The love between us is mutual and still growing. In fact, her love for me started before mine and that’s because she knew we were both meant to be. Are there challenges and trials in our relationship? You bet! Do both of us quarrel with each other? Of course we do, and at the end, I always turn out to be wrong and the love gets strengthened!

“Wow! Okay, Chinonso could you please tell us who this ‘she’ is?” you may enquire of me.

“Well, I knew you would definitely ask. Well, her name is ‘My Zone‘,” Chinonso answers. “Please make no mistake about it; her name is called My Zone.”

Just before you stone the crows, let’s me quickly share with you a biographical excerpt of a great man you knew – Steve Jobs, former CEO of Apple Computers. In June 2005, about six years before his death, Steve Jobs was invited to deliver a speech to graduates of Stanford UniversityUSA. When it was time for him to speak, he mounted the podium, cleared his throat, and told the graduates just three stories of which the second story was about his love life. In no particular order, the following were some of his actual words: 1. “You got to find what you love. That’s true for work as it is for your lovers.” 2. “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” 3. I am convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did.” 4. “If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.”

When you critically study those words, or you watch the video clip of that great speech, you will agree with me that Steve Jobs simply had and valued his love life, and he was proud enough to tell the world about it. Simply put, Steve Jobs searched and found his own Zone – his missing rib – and he spent his entire life living within it. And believe me, the world will always remember and celebrate him for that.

The truth is that you and I have been called to search for our own zone. And when we do find it, we are expected to spend our lives living within it. Obviously, we all have been called to have and enjoy a fruitful love life with what we have been wired for. In other words, we are not expected to drift through life; rather, we are expected to find fulfillment doing that thing that we are truly designed for. Hence, if you desire to attain success and significance in your life, then you must find fulfillment in what you do. And fulfillment only exists in that zone where your true love exists.

Your life is just too precious and short for you to enter into a relationship with an assignment that you don’t have true love for. It is the worst kind of living-worse than death, actually! Are you currently doing what you love? Are you in your Zone? Are you in a relationship with your true love? Or are you just going through the motions in your love life, maybe because you have lost hope of finding your true love? Or maybe you’re one of those stoics who pretend not to care about true love. Whichever be the case, I have news for you: Life is nothing without true love.

Your life’s treasures will always lie where your true love is. So go ahead and allow your true love to serve as your compass through the great, overwhelming ocean of life. When you stay within your zone, when you enter into a relationship with your true love, the truth is that life becomes fun and fulfilling for you and for those around you. “But, Chinonso I have tried to find my true love and it’s just too hard,” you may say. Well, sure it may have been quite hard for you, but then always remember the words of Steve Jobs“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking … don’t settle.” Friend, I believe you will find it. And when you do, don’t forget to let me know because I will love to join in the bash.


About the author: Chinonso Ogbogu is a business consultant, prolific writer, strategic thinker, radio personality, and a highly sought-after motivational speaker. He is the radio host of SuccessMatters, a leading, life-transforming radio programme created to illuminate the path of individuals to live a life of true success and significance. He resides currently in Enugu, Nigeria.


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Comments (5)

  1. I appreciate the wisdom that this piece carries. Quite a creative writing that ignited the fire in me. Thanks Chinonso. Tolu

  2. This is a great piece of work. God bless you sir.

  3. Words like these are what I need, because I have been wasting time to follow my dreams, listen to the negative words around me.Thank you so much CHINONSO. People watch for me! SOONNNNNNNNN.

  4. words like this is wat me need, cos I have been wasting time to foolow my dreams, listen to the negative words around me.thank you so much CHINONSO.people watch for me! SOONNNNNNNNN.

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