The conversation on Twitter since yesterday has been fixated on sexual abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence- and in particular who bears the brunt of sexual abuse and violence more.
It was set in motion by this thread by Jasper (@JajaPhD)
https://twitter.com/JajaPhD/status/862605450671525888
https://twitter.com/JajaPhD/status/862628632237412352
https://twitter.com/JajaPhD/status/862629351698948096
Problem was, a couple of days ago, a girl had been declared missing on Twitter and yesterday, the news broke that she had been burnt by her boyfriend, so Twitter NG considered Jaja inquiry bad timing and insensitive.
So it all went downhill from there
https://twitter.com/caanniiball/status/862669374523674625
Please don't start. Violence on men where??? See how you people kill us left and right
— MissIvy (@dogs_mum1) May 11, 2017
Lol! When men choose to raise their issues, these same women hijack the convo with subs and insults ๐๐๐
— Her Fokken Majesty ๐ฅฐ๐ (@cremechic11) May 11, 2017
Jaja claps back
https://twitter.com/JajaPhD/status/862750477087387648
https://twitter.com/La_Yi_De_/status/862766215823020036
https://twitter.com/JajaPhD/status/862767066268487683
https://twitter.com/JajaPhD/status/862767387426394114
https://twitter.com/La_Yi_De_/status/862769350356422657
Chine Ezekwesili isn’t taking it
Men, each & everyone of us is conditioned by society to be trash. Unless you're from Mars, you're no exception. So please stfu already.
— Chine(melum) Ezekwesili ๐ป๐บ๐ป๐โโฌ (@ChineEzeks) May 11, 2017
The hubris & ignirance to think you somehow escaped being conditioned by a patriarchal society & the privilege it affords you. Amazing.
— Chine(melum) Ezekwesili ๐ป๐บ๐ป๐โโฌ (@ChineEzeks) May 11, 2017
You're not trash, but you feel more displeasure about being called trash than about women experiencing displeasure from trash. Ok.
— Chine(melum) Ezekwesili ๐ป๐บ๐ป๐โโฌ (@ChineEzeks) May 11, 2017
Women are violent too
https://twitter.com/Marrgarritah/status/862628080757682176
I know of a girl that grabbed on her boyfriend's steering while he was on the highway in Abuja here. Said both of them must die that day
— imabong (@ima_george___) May 11, 2017
Some girls are crazy
— Noraboo (@miss__dimples) May 11, 2017
Crazy is an understatement my dear…
It's both gender tho. I just really wonder who raised such people tho— imabong (@ima_george___) May 11, 2017
Lol.. na small e remain make one ex pour salt inside my car engine years back ๐๐.
— BAYOJED AUTOS (@bayojedautos) May 11, 2017
Lol, It was my neighbor that begged the idiot o, I wasn't around and she behaved normal when I came in. I got to know a week later
— BAYOJED AUTOS (@bayojedautos) May 11, 2017
My Ex broke my Laptop with an hammer in my presence because she was mad I wasnt replying her while she rants. Its crazy and scary.
— Obayemi๐ฑ (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
She became too possessive more like an obsession and Fear that I might break up with her. Had to go AWOL for awhile.
— Obayemi๐ฑ (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
Hacked my IG account and sent several demeaning texts to my followers in my dm and shared my number randomly telling them I was missing.
— Obayemi๐ฑ (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
So many Guys go through assaults like this but try to man Up because Society doesnt show more concern about Situations like this.
— Obayemi๐ฑ (@Obayemiiee) May 11, 2017
Cray shit. Dated one crazy ass girl like that. Had to run for my life. She legit smashed her phones 3 times cuz we argued. Turn the room โฌ๏ธ
— ๐๐๐ซ๐ฅ๐จ ๐๐๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ง๐จ (@Abdulherphyz) May 11, 2017
1. My friend's ex actually smashed his car windscreens, side mirrors n car body cos she saw a girl who happened to b a colleague in d car..
— Ola (@inspiratibiz) May 11, 2017
2) same girl sent thugs to beat us up cos she felt her man brought a girl to mines as he refused to see her.. We gat call one mopol friend
— Ola (@inspiratibiz) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/oDeniBo_JR/status/862651738658091009
Reading this tweet's replies got me saying nawa…. Real one.
Ewure Ati maalu ti poju ni igboro… ๐
— tega (@Optimeast) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/KvngOla/status/862685725225103360
Even this
LMAO. 2012.my friends wife broke Three TV, his Highlander windscreen&iPhone cause he cheated.She was still girlfriend then tho
— C.S.Rubicon (@Olgee_) May 11, 2017
at least she didn't break his face ๐๐
— JULIA (@Your_Sugar_Plum) May 11, 2017
Women are the cause
https://twitter.com/Ms_Eno/status/862676613577797634
I'm not buying this fable, men have agency, that is self-control, control of temper, temperament and reaction. Without it, they're animals. https://t.co/0kdYgC5hMZ
— Akin Akรญntรกyแปฬ ๐ณ๏ธโ๐ #European (@forakin) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/Wendy68339856/status/862680069935964160
That on its own is domestic violence. Its not exclusive to just men.
— Nassty bhadie๐ (@IamGbono) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/chimmyxxx/status/862749674909966339
https://twitter.com/Ms_Eno/status/862756613874208768
https://twitter.com/chimmyxxx/status/862759942826184705
https://twitter.com/Ms_Eno/status/862760258992828418
u see that's the problem, it has always bin abt teaching women… It's time to start teaching sons that they are not more important
— CCJ (@Ms_CCJay) May 11, 2017
,woman have been taught that from babies to when they became girls & then women,they be been taught 2 shut up and manage the man.
— vikky (@vikkyiwara) May 11, 2017
We've been teaching women this for eons. What we haven't done is teach our sons to see women as equals. https://t.co/zgK8947bfW
— Amara Nwankpa (@Nwankpa_A) May 11, 2017
God is our helper
https://twitter.com/Crayune/status/862675197568192513
Let’s fact check that
How about your boss sir? And the police man on the road? And your neighbour with big chest? U won't pray that they shldnt frustrate u too? https://t.co/Lmp4Quwdjf
— Rolayo THE FOOD AND SMALL CHOPS PLUG (@superflycook) May 11, 2017
Trauma is real
I was raped by my Dad. MY DAD. ๐ https://t.co/arx9Xd2W5T
— Madam Zungu. (@VanillaFlvrxd) May 11, 2017
He told me not to make a big deal out of it because kaloku ndafunyanwa nge rape mna kqala…the nerve.
— Madam Zungu. (@VanillaFlvrxd) May 11, 2017
My heart ๐๐ญ๐ญ pic.twitter.com/TreaqJQHkq
— Nosi ๐๐๐ธ๐ (@NosiphoL__) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/BeautMess12/status/862646756416393217
you walk into huge board meetings and pitch for a massive account. You're applauded they loved it! At tea time the VP saunters over
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
Says he likes seeing women in charge, seeing black women do their thing. (This was board with only two women). Anyway he says I should
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
keep up the good work, they like me and my team. Says I should email him personally with my number so we can discuss this in detail
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
Says to use his gmail, underscores his cell on his business card. I feel great, he says I look beautifull, likes my size. I want to vomit
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I laugh dejectedly and hurry us out of there. Everyone is hyped in the car,asks why im not excited,I say I am but just coming down from high
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
i tell them I have a budget to do not to disturb me. I lock the office. The business needs the money, This man is using power, Im anxious
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I run it by a friend, confirms that she feels he's doing that too. Im angry as fuck, I wish it was just about our work. I hate everything
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I send the email to procurement with all the docs they need,I cc his work email, he sees my cell in signature, texts me later that evening
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious I'm anxious
— mooncake (@wittnsass) May 11, 2017
my own abuse was from supposed mum-in-law. Bitch gave me serious psychological toture. I bless God for rescuing me.
— Sisi Snego (@sisisnego) May 11, 2017
Memories. Memories
Worst thing I did today was open this TL cos now I'm crying in a bus cos things I kept bottled up are coming back to me all at once.
— love (@Funabynature) May 11, 2017
See ehn. I didn't mean to open Twitter today and be flooded with all these memories. Sigh. https://t.co/zIjEEiZXzG
— Vaginal Horoscope Agba feminist๐ณ๏ธโ๐๐ (@IjeomaOgood) May 11, 2017
The TL is extremely triggering today. My heart goes out to those women who are having painful flashbacks & are being reminded of tragedies.
— Sandi M โก (@SandisiweM_) May 11, 2017
Don't do this. I've done it before and today I think different. Trauma makes people react irrationally sometimes. Help is what they need
— KA (@KwamiAdadevoh) May 11, 2017
So many stories but not even nearly half the picture. For every woman who's sharing, there's many more who aren't
— Sika Yo (@UnVelo_) May 11, 2017
Na wa
I don't know why we keep coming up with "indecent dressing" as excuse for harassment and rape. There can't be justification for rape.
— Ayobami Alarape (@ayoalarape) May 11, 2017
But
Lol. Abeg let's be honest about this thing so people know why they are attracted to rubbish. Not when jungle mature, na so so "Men are scum"
— Gene Grey (@EuginhoCortez) May 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/OgbeniDipo/status/862757396090945538
The world is a dangerous place for women because of men. The world is a dangerous place for men also because of men. Fix men, fix the world.
— Ayo Sogunro (@ayosogunro) May 11, 2017
Summary
https://twitter.com/Oriadday/status/862647607822364673
I think the time is ripe for the Church to start addressing Child molestation, gender-based violence & domestic abuse from the pulpit.
— Banqie (@AdeBanqie) May 11, 2017
I'm glad SM has enabled open if fractuos conversations about abuse, rape and gender. It's progress. We couldn't get people taking 10 yrs ago
— Funmi Iyanda (@Funmilola) May 11, 2017
The amazing vibrancy of Nigerians is stunted by conservatism of ideas and philosophies, these conversations may help spur a mind revolution
— Funmi Iyanda (@Funmilola) May 11, 2017
A mind revolution towards developmental philosophies to drive social, economic and political change. At least that's my hope. I need hope.
— Funmi Iyanda (@Funmilola) May 11, 2017
If he hits you, he is not a man. He is a Beast. RUN! Stay safe!
— D'banj D Kokomaster (@iamdbanj) May 11, 2017
*Sigh*
