5 ways to cool your HOT temper

by Ipshita Kumar

While we may be giving you the simplest tricks to put a lid on your temper, there are times when things do tend to get out of hand. For some people, anger management is serious business and, at times, needs extra help. 

We know that keeping your temper in check can be challenging, and men being men, rising tempers must be calmed down with immediate effect. An angry outburst means you blow your lid and what follows can be dangerous to others as well as you. Studies show that when you are worked up and angry, your heart begins to race, your blood pressure levels go up and even your blood gets stickier, forming clots. That’s the sign of a heart attack. Hence, it is important to keep away from flipping out. Try these tricks!

Think Before You Speak

When we are angry, we automatically tend to lose control over our head and hence our speech. You might say something in the heat of the moment that can make you regret forever in future. So, don’t blurt out whatever comes to your mind. Think before you speak, collect your thoughts and allow the other person to speak as well.

Stick With ‘I’ Statements

The moment you start the blame game, you will realise that it’s going nowhere. Criticism is a good thing, as long as you can maintain your temper levels and use it constructively. Do not try to solve any situation by just screaming or yelling. Instead, use “I” in your statements while trying to point out the other person’s mistakes. That way, you put a finger on the issue as well as don’t sound harsh.

Crack Some Jokes

Don’t use sarcasm though! Making light of the situation can help quickly diffuse the situation and seeing things in a comic light will only ease the tension. If you can laugh at yourself while you’re angry, more than half the battle is won, my friend!

Practice Relaxation Skills

Breathe! Breathe! Breathe! Always know that temper begets temper, and that’s no solution. Use your relaxation skills such as deep-breathing exercises, keep quiet and divert your mind to something soothing whenever you think you can’t control your rage. Write down about your problems or play an instrument, for example, to vent out the frustration.

Know When To Seek Help

While we may be giving you the simplest tricks to put a lid on your temper, there are times when things do tend to get out of hand. For some people, anger management is serious business and, at times, needs extra help. If your anger makes you regret for hurting the other person (not just emotionally, but physically too), then you must consider seeking help from a counsellor or take anger management lessons.

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