In this era of broken Christian marriages, the focus on God and his intentions for marriage has been ignored. What’s particularly interesting is that in this Coronavirus pandemic, lockdown restrictions are forcing couples to stay home together more than ever, testing the strength or weakness of their connection, their patience for each other and insidiously creating situations for them to falter.
Internet jokes about how married men, and even women, can’t meet their extramarital partners for sex because of the current pandemic should hit close to home if you are guilty. Interestingly, the pandemic hasn’t stopped couples from getting married, turning to digital platforms like Zoom and calling it a day. How much dedication has gone into building a culture of communication that can weather any storm? How open are partners with each other?
This is the core message of Pastor Samuel Adeyemi’s sermon on MultiChoice’s newest pop up channel on DStv and GOtv, The Hallelujah Channel. Titled ‘Mindsets and Marriage’, Pastor Adeyemi of the Daystar Christian Centre goes straight for the jugular by diagnosing miscommunication as the reason most Christian marriages fail. ”Psychologists say marriage is about 80% communication,” he says to his Sunday-ready congregation. Something as basic as sex, when not communicated as desired, leaves room for withdrawal and disaffection.
”Your ideas about sex, where did you get them from?” Pastor Adeyemi points out how some couples’ worldviews about sex come from pornography, conditioning their minds to have unrealistic expectations about their spouses, even compelling them to cheat. He quotes 1 Corinthians 7: 1-7, which admonishes couples to fulfill their marital duty to each other – that the wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband and the same goes for the husband.
”In marriage, the most important sex organ is your mind,” Pastor Adeyemi says then breaks this further by saying that before sex occurs physically, your mind has already gone through the motions or act, and that it should be fashioned after God intended. Beyond sex, though, communication can dictate the atmosphere in a home and our communication style are products of our mindset. A harsh word can stir up anger, Pastor Adeyemi notes.
There’s rapt attention from the congregation and other times, laughter and giggles here and there. Sex can be an awkward subject to discuss in the church, but Pastor Adeyemi does a fine job in communicating his message. ‘Mindsets and Marriage’ is just one of the various sermon topics from different ministers that has been airing on the Hallelujah Channel since it launched on DStv and GOtv last month, designed to foster togetherness in the Christian community and restore hope especially during these challenging times
The Hallelujah Channel is where you can find a 24 hour-run buffet of uplifting sermons, prayers, choir ministrations from the pulpits of Daystar Christian Centre, RCCG City of David, Kingsway International Christian Centre (KICC), The Elevation Church, House on the Rock and Harvesters International Christian Centre, to name a few. Giving viewers a church-at-home-experience, the Hallelujah pop channel is on DStv channel 198 available on DStv Premium, Compact Plus, Compact, Confam, Family, Yanga and Access packages, and on GOtv channel 29 available to subscribers on GOtv Max, Jolli and Plus packages.