by Adaobi Okwy
and she told the world how her situation was “relatable” and how it was the case of the “ex” and how her “heartbreak was real” among other things.
Tran comes across like a nice enough lady but, it would really hurt the young girls and any other woman who will be naive enough to buy into her story. Before you throw punches, let us take a walk together…
If I were Tran’s mother or sister or friend (thankfully, none), I would be the first to ask her three specific questions:
A) Why in the world do you go back to a guy who threw you to the curb for his ex? Because, many of us women are growing more independent and wiser and will not do that? Why suggest that we would?
B) Besides being the girlfriend of a superstar, what else are you? (You all will agree that all she’s known for and which even the interview shows us, is- she’s a girlfriend). So, how relatable are you…? We all don’t date superstars?
C) If your heartbreak is very real like you claim, your life isn’t a very happy one, we deduct…and given your boyfriend’s penchant for violence, do you not think that “character/reputation” rather than the classic “am in love” should be what you should be a piority to you? Admittedly, I don’t personally know Brown but he’s proved his character to the world over and over again, and your “heartbreak situation” falls in with him not being the best man for you…as a real man will proudly hold on to you and not kick you out for an ex. (Does he even spare you from all his “shit?”)
Crying and claiming that you are a victim doesn’t make anyone relatable- Tran. We could say that your lifestyle has increased and Brown sponsors that. We could say that the “celebrity status and culture” you are becoming an insider on, is becoming you and you don’t want to give that up. And maybe you really haven’t analyzed that.
Whatever it is, and until you do, could you please never tell us that getting kicked to the curb for an ex, standing up for an ex-con, dating a superstar, staying in a love triangle…is anywhere relatable? Cos we don’t buy…and its a shame you do.
Adaobi Okwy blogs at Adaobi Okwy.com
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