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Cradle Rocking…Baby!

Reality TV dating has become one of the hottest formats on television with
an explosion in shows like The Bachelor . We, the audience, are thrilled by
the voyeuristic pleasure of all the things that can make or break the deal:
height, weight, mannerisms, faith, cultural differences, education level,
and of course, the age factor. Traditionally women go for older men, which
presents a bit of a conundrum when a woman meets an attractive younger man.
Late last year, I met a young man on the
plane and we sparked up an interesting
conversation. He gave me all sorts of
interesting bits of personal information,
but the one I fixated upon was his age!
Although he was a year older than me, he
was still a lot younger than the men I was
accustomed to dating and I found myself
dismissing him as a romantic interest
shortly after that.
However, more recently, I have had to
confront the uncomfortable possibility of
relinquishing control of my relationship
to someone my younger brother’s age. In
addition, my age snobbery is somewhat
misplaced considering that even I look about 3-5 years younger than my real age.
I find myself slowly coming round to the notion that maturity and age in a man
are not necessarily synonymous or perfect complements. And perhaps by limiting
the selection pool from which I am willing to consider a partner, I have missed
out on some real gems. Nonetheless, I don’t think it would be an easy transition
either for me or the guy, even if we treated everything with care and an open
mind. I imagine that in a cradle rocking situation, a younger man may be
predisposed to asserting himself in the relationship, and may thus be less
amenable to compromise. Still I can’t help but be seduced by the idea.
Great things are good in small doses, and at this junction, I will like to caution
the “grown” women not to go driving around secondary schools looking for a
cradle to “rob”. Teenage boys are in a different world during their teenage years
but that doesn’t give us older ladies the luxury of picking out of that pool; if you
are a 32 year old woman, and you see a 15 year old boy? Please let ’em grow!
While researching on this topic, I found out that a few aunties of mine
actually indulged in this concept back in the day, but it wasn’t made a public
announcement. I have a few friends who are recently married, engaged,
and some dating in the same concept personally, I must admit…it’s rocking!
Wisdom of the week: The foundation of a relationship is trust. If
this is missing, you will forever play detective.. Fix it or let it go!

Reality TV dating has become one of the hottest formats on television withan explosion in shows like The Bachelor . We, the audience, are thrilled bythe voyeuristic pleasure of all the things that can make or break the deal:height, weight, mannerisms, faith, cultural differences, education level,and of course, the age factor. Traditionally women go for older men, whichpresents a bit of a conundrum when a woman meets an attractive younger man.
Late last year, I met a young man on theplane and we sparked up an interestingconversation. He gave me all sorts ofinteresting bits of personal information,but the one I fixated upon was his age!Although he was a year older than me, hewas still a lot younger than the men I wasaccustomed to dating and I found myselfdismissing him as a romantic interestshortly after that.
However, more recently, I have had toconfront the uncomfortable possibility ofrelinquishing control of my relationshipto someone my younger brother’s age. Inaddition, my age snobbery is somewhatmisplaced considering that even I look about 3-5 years younger than my real age.I find myself slowly coming round to the notion that maturity and age in a manare not necessarily synonymous or perfect complements. And perhaps by limitingthe selection pool from which I am willing to consider a partner, I have missedout on some real gems. Nonetheless, I don’t think it would be an easy transitioneither for me or the guy, even if we treated everything with care and an openmind. I imagine that in a cradle rocking situation, a younger man may bepredisposed to asserting himself in the relationship, and may thus be lessamenable to compromise. Still I can’t help but be seduced by the idea.
Great things are good in small doses, and at this junction, I will like to cautionthe “grown” women not to go driving around secondary schools looking for acradle to “rob”. Teenage boys are in a different world during their teenage yearsbut that doesn’t give us older ladies the luxury of picking out of that pool; if youare a 32 year old woman, and you see a 15 year old boy? Please let ’em grow!
While researching on this topic, I found out that a few aunties of mineactually indulged in this concept back in the day, but it wasn’t made a publicannouncement. I have a few friends who are recently married, engaged,and some dating in the same concept personally, I must admit…it’s rocking!

Wisdom of the week: The foundation of a relationship is trust. Ifthis is missing, you will forever play detective.. Fix it or let it go!

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  1. Hmm… I wouldn't be quick to judge oooo

    1. Judge what?

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