When will African parents stop parading abuse as discipline?

 The go-to “lazy parenting” handbook for most African parents involves deploying violence against their children when trying to correct them. In almost any instance, African parents believe that immense flogging and extreme measures that clearly crosses the line into child abuse is the easiest way to get ‘results’. Proof of this is seen in a viral Instablog video depicting a Nigerian father flogging his 18-year-old daughter mercilessly. The crime committed? The daughter reportedly joined a group chat that she was told not to join. 



As expected, some Nigerians have camped in the comment section; stating that it is the right of the parent to flog her as such and that “woke” twitter should not speak against the expected discipline of a child. Some also reached for the usual argument that the parent pays for her needs, pays her school fees and as such has the right to do with her as they deem fit. 






Some went on to share their personal experiences, narrating that they were also beaten past 18 years of age and as such this incidence was “normal”.




On the opposing fence, “woke twitter” reference contemporary research that faults the violence as discipline approach to child rearing. The Twitter users pointed out that the girl was an adult and should be treated as such, going further to state that an 18-year-old is past the age of being flogged. 



Some also emphasized that if at this age, the parents couldn’t trust her decision making, then it was a reflection of the poor job they’ve done training her. Others also called out the fact that the offence does not correlate with the punishment, espousing that the kind of beating she was receiving just because she “joined a group chat” was terrible. They pointed out that it would only backfire and teach the girl to hide things better. 





Time and time again, we see Nigerian parents, generally African parents, administer painful, torturous acts on their children, labelling it discipline whereas its just cruelty and abuse. When would we learn to stop lazy parenting and adopt other healthy options in raising our kids?


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