by Reuben Dada
These are tough times for the Benenoch family. Going through a divorce is never an easy thing for couples. But with her husband, David Benenoch, talking tough about his decision to carry on with the divorce, Esther Benenoch, the troubled wife of the bishop has penned a piece (part-sermon, part-memoir), which has perhaps given her an edge as far as public perception goes.
In a piece, No Regrets, which she wrote on her blog, Esther Benenoch included a touching paragraph in which she said among other things that, “… inspite of all that is going on I do not, and will never regret saying I do to my husband, and I will do it again in a heart beat even though I do not understand all that is going on right now.”
The piece does not reveal anything new in terms of the reason behind the impending divorce, but she definitely did not do herself any harm in writing it.
Read the full piece below:
Regret is an emotion that we should not give our selves to as believers. For as an emotion it does not take us far with God neither does it give us the spiritual results that we seek. Feelings of remorse is temporal and has it’s foundation in the flesh, it is carnal and therefore can not please God. King Saul regreted his actions in not killing King Agag and sparing some the cattle and sheep. His remorse was fleeting and not heart felt because first he blamed the people and he did to save face or gain respect from Samuel and the people.
Judas Iscariot also regreted his selling his Lord Jesus for 30 pieces of silver, but he went and committed suicide afterwards . In Matthew 27 vs 3, ”When Judas who had betrayed him, and saw that Jesus was condemned he was seized with remorse and returned the 30 silver coins to the chief priests and elders.” In vs 5 it is written ”so Judas threw the money into the temple and left. Then he went away and hanged himself.” This is the result of regret this how far it can go, hopelessness, despair, and destruction. The reason for this simple, regret stems from the wisdom of the world, it is carnal, soulish and therefore lacks the power to save or transform us.
One of the best decisions I have made in life is being married to my husband, it’s one thing am glad and grateful to God for. As achievements go, while many women are fighting to make a name for themselves, with all sincerity and I believe it, my greatest achievement would have been my husband and my family, nothing fills me with joy as being Mrs. Esther Benenoch. It may not sound like much, but for it is a big part of my destiny. I know what you are thinking that may be that’s why this has befallen me, I still do not regret it,God is faithful.
And so inspite of all that is going on I do not, and will never regret saying ‘I do’ to my husband, and I will do it again in a heart beat even though I do not understand all that is going on right now. But my marriage is a walk of faith; much like my walk with this awesome wonderful Lord of my life, Jesus. I take seriously the Word of God ”the just shall live by faith and not by sight.”
For this reason I say no to regret, and yes to mourning and repentance.
Yes to mourning and repentance because it is of the Spirit of God and it brings transformation .
Regret —–no, because regret is false religion having a form of godliness but denying the power of God to save to the uttermost.
Repentance—-yes, for it admits the powerlessness of self,and wholly acknowledges and depends upon the power of God to save.
Regret—-no, for it is temporal and often like a dog goes back to it’s vomit. It is mere words and letters and often kills–like judas, see Psalm76 vs 34-36.
Repentance—yes, it is action, obedience, humility, brokenness and admission that I am helpless without God. Repentance definitely yes — because it causes my heart to follow hard after God who alone upholds me with righteous right hand—-Psalm63 vs 8.
Repentance — yes,because it causes my heart to sing, ”O God my help in ages past,my hope for years to come”.
Repentance—yes, because it says with a broken heart to my God and my mercy–”to whom shall I go to, you alone have the words of eternal life.”
Repentance –yes, because it causes my heart to sing, “great is your mercy and faithfulness,your loving kindness is better than life.” It praises the God of second chances, and says to Him,”create me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me, cast me not away from your presence.”
Regret—no, For it walks away in defeat, but with a hard heart, unyielded, impatient to wait upon the God of all flesh who causes all things to work together for the good of all those who love Him and are called by His purpose.
Repentance–yes, as it waits in hope upon Him who makes all things new and says to the Lord—’Lord when you said to my heart seek me, my heart says to you, your face O Lord will i seek, for my goodness comes only from you.
Repentance—yes, It brings you face to face before the Lord with whom we have to deal and keeps you there until He turns your mourning into joy and dancing again, until He lifts your sorrows,so you can no longer stay silent; but sing and dance and rejoice for His joy has come. Repentance and mourning cleanses the soul, as through tears and brokenness, you recount the countless blessings of God, His righteous acts of salvation, help,deliverance, and trust Him for new blessings.
Regrets —No, for it blames God and others and does not remember past blessings, neither is grateful.
Job did not regret, neither did David they mourned and repented for for failures and mistakes. You are a child of God, do not regret, His love is greater and stronger than our mistakes and Failures. There is no need or room for regret in a believers life, that’s the way of the world. I leave you with these words of encouragement; in Acts the bible encourages ”repent and be saved[delivered] that times of of refreshing may come,, then Matthew 5vs4 ”Blesssed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted’
Lord teach us to mourn and live a life of repentance on this side of eternity so that our weaknesses, failures, mistakes will not prevail against us, and we can be every thing you have called us to be; a people of power and praise, holiness so we will show the praises of Him who has called out darkness into His marvelous light on earth.