When you sign up with me on The Achieve Your Marriage Goal 12 month plan, one of the first things I help you achieve is dealing with wrong mindsets about relationships and marriages resulting from your upbringing, environment and significant emotional experiences.
Your mindset is a powerful thing and it can be one thing that has been getting you the present results you are having. Your mindset was formed over the years and it would be a great disadvantage to you If you have a wrong one as regards relationships and marriage.
For instance, when you believe that Men are Bad because your dad wasn’t really good to your mum. It could even be that you arrived at such conclusion because of the way two or more guys broke your heart.
This assumption would affect the way you see all men. You would never see a man that is good and you would keep attracting bad men into your lives everyday. This kind of mindset needs to be changed before you can even start a new relationship or enjoy the one you are in currently.
Secondly, if because of your upbringing you conclude that a woman should be subdued and not be equal to the man, you would have great problem dating in this century, because women are finding their feet and are in highly placed positions.
That could be a reason why you think all the women you are meeting are arrogant and domineering. You would always find faults with every woman who knows her onion and tries to stand for herself.
TRUST NO ONE
Some people have gone through some issues when they were young. They were treated harshly by their parents, a wicked step mother or bad friends.
Some were even raped or molested by someone they loved and trusted and this has broken their trust level. They believe nobody is trustworthy and every one is out to get something from them or break their heart.
If you are in this category, you have to learn to trust again or you would always contaminate your relationships. You really have to heal and be free from this plague before it ruins your future.
ALL MEN CHEAT
This is the craziest belief you can ever have. Not all men cheat. I know some faithful and correct men that would never cheat on their woman.
If you have this mindset, you would be attracting men who cheat and always be suspicious of every man who comes your way. You need to be break free from this mindset.
GREAT CHEMISTRY DEFINES A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
Lie!
Some people expect that having great Chemistry with someone automatically means you would have a great relationship. The fact that both of you are crazy about each other doesn’t mean you are meant to be.
If you neglect values and other important factors in a relationship, your relationship will crash even with your great chemistry.
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Lara Kudayisi-Emeralds is a Matchmaking Mistress and can be reached via @larakudayisi. She also match-makes singles, nurture their relationships and help them build a great Happily Ever After experience.
