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The Daily Vulnerable | Pay attention to yourself
Stop looking for signs of your own progress in other people’s eyes or actions. You know where you are coming from, you know where you are going, and you know…
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The Daily Vulnerable | Accountable
I like to make a small difference between holding myself responsible for something or holding myself accountable. The former means I am to be blamed for the situation. But the…
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Decide for yourself | The Daily Vulnerable
When people come to meet me for advice, they often want me to look into my life’s situations and tell them exactly what to do. And sometimes that is very…
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The Daily Vulnerable | Sorry, but your fears are boring
I always laugh when younger people tell me in an urgent voice, the voice you use when you have something deeply important to discuss with someone else; something that hasn’t…
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Rookie mistake | The Daily Vulnerable
I used to make this mistake a lot, and today I continue to be surprised when people make that elementary mistake. People get unhappy, and they assume the solution is…
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How does one deal with insecurity? | The Daily Vulnerable
Therapy helps. But when it comes to emotions, therapy is about management more than anything else. And what you want is a shift in consciousness. I like those who request…
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Good grief | The Daily Vulnerable
You know when you break up with someone you shouldn’t have been with, end a business partnership you shouldn’t have entered, quit a job you shouldn’t have managed, send a…
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You can learn a lot from driving | The Daily Vulnerable
No matter what other drivers are doing, you can't move forward if you spend your time looking at them. Some other people have faster and better cars, you will be…
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“Your mother doesn’t know what she is talking about” | The Daily Vulnerable
One of the interns at one of our companies came to spend an evening with me - he had things that had been worrying him for a while about his…
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Does it honour you? | The Daily Vulnerable
That relationship you’re in, that friendship you’re participating in, that business you’re running, that church or mosque or temple you’re attending, that girl that’s flirting with you, that restaurant you…
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Complete, always | The Daily Vulnerable
I shared a mail from someone who said she doesn’t understand what I mean by being perfect or complete as she is because “I don’t feel perfect or complete in…
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How do you? | The Daily Vulnerable
Two years or so ago, I was selected for a Stanford programme for entrepreneurs. It was, of course, a prestigious programme, and it had taken a while to get to…
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The fear of sadness | The Daily Vulnerable
When I posted on social media in December about feeling sadly and barely avoiding the pit of depression, I was struck by how many people reached me, in somewhat of…
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What about the person who loved you? | The Daily Vulnerable
You are counting all the people who didn’t say yes to you, didn’t stay with you, didn’t love you the way you deserved, who broke your heart viciously, who didn’t…
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The Daily Vulnerable | True Prosperity
There is nothing wrong with striving to improve your life situation. You can improve your life situation, but you cannot improve your life. Life is primary. Life is your deepest…
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The Daily Vulnerable | This is why we want you to succeed
If you’re a committed reader of this newsletter, then you probably know what I know: that money doesn’t lead to happiness, that status is a game that leads to a…
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The Daily Vulnerable | Drama
I like drama. I am also naturally given to drama. And I attract a number of dramatic people to myself. Drama makes like a bit more fun, enhances the experience,…
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The Daily Vulnerable | New year, new … what?
New you, yeah? Well, how has that worked for you all these years? For much of you, not very much. How about old you, getting better, making decisions to grow…
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The Daily Vulnerable | You are not your emotions only
We speak a lot about emotions in the newsletter (The Daily Vulnerable). Because emotions are often the way we react to the world. But we aren’t just emotions. Don’t play…
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The Daily Vulnerable | What’s your story?
I shared one of the most profound moments of my life with the audience of TEDx Ungwarimi, where I was invited as a guest over the weekend. My therapist was…
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The Daily Vulnerable | Nothing but the truth
Friend, ask me: “Do you care what people think about you, Chude?” My answer will be this: “On most days? No. Because I truly know that it doesn’t matter. What…
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The Daily Vulnerable | Friends
Sometimes your friends will be unreasonable. Sometimes they will be annoying, they will say the wrong things, do the wrong things, be insensitive, be selfish, not be there for you…
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The Daily Vulnerable | There is too much judgement in the world
Too many people are living under the disapproving eyes of others, or themselves. Too many people are in the prison of expectation, and fear and so worried that others will…
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The Daily Vulnerable | For my sake, I choose truth
I was at dinner with a mentor the other day, and he asked me, "So are you still based outside Nigeria?" Now, if you live in Nigeria, you know that being seen…
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The Daily Vulnerable | Sadness
When I began to learn about living a joyful life, I would find myself ashamed whenever I was sad. Almost as if I was failing a lesson I should already…
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What’s the formula? | The Daily Vulnerable
…for living what Brene Brown calls a “wholehearted” life - what I call a life of “joy”? Authentic + Courage + Compassion. Authenticity: Show up everywhere, everyday with your truest best self –…
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Both ways | The Daily Vulnerable
When someone asks you a favour, if your reply is "I sadly don’t have the money. I haven’t even paid for X", you expect empathy, even sympathy, right? But when…
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Did you amount to anything? | The Daily Vulnerable
Are you one of those people whom someone told when they were young, in school, powerless or needing help of some sort that ‘you wouldn’t amount to anything’? If you are,…
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Come and carry your pedestal, biko | The Daily Vulnerable
When others respect you or love you, or in other ways hold you in esteem, there is always the temptation for them to idolize you, to put you on a pedestal. That’s because people like…
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The Daily Vulnerable: Perfect
People like perfect stories, Friend. Be careful. “I haven’t had any alcohol in 5 years,” for instance. But are you sure? Are you sure they haven’t had just a sip…
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YMonitor
- Beyond the Power Struggle: Why a Strong Opposition Party is Crucial for Nigeria’s Democracy
- The Importance of Impartial Reporting in Nigeria’s Democracy
- Understanding the Role of Election Tribunals in Nigeria’s Electoral Process
- The Importance of Active Citizenship Beyond the Voting Booth
- How Ethnic Baiting is Undermining Nigeria’s National Security and Democracy
YMonitor
- Beyond the Power Struggle: Why a Strong Opposition Party is Crucial for Nigeria’s Democracy
- The Importance of Impartial Reporting in Nigeria’s Democracy
- Understanding the Role of Election Tribunals in Nigeria’s Electoral Process
- The Importance of Active Citizenship Beyond the Voting Booth
- How Ethnic Baiting is Undermining Nigeria’s National Security and Democracy