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Stewards of ideas whose time has come

by Oluseun Onigbide This powerful paragraph from Autobiography of Martin Luther King, one of my favourite books creates leaps of joy in me: “O God, help me to see myself in my true perspective. Help me, O God, to see that I’m just a symbol of a movement. Help me to see that I’m the victim... Read More

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September 1, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable: Confronting the Imposter

by Faith I had the opportunity to attend the Ivy League of all Ivy Leagues. Imaginably, I was thrilled to be moving across the country, starting my first semester and excited about all the opportunities that lay ahead. When friends would ask why I was moving to Boston, I curtly replied, “for school” without further... Read More

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August 24, 2019

Eighty and bitter

by Damola Morenikeji Yesterday, as I laid on the bed, after meditating, I started thinking of the person I am becoming. I caught myself in this thought and stopped. I had done this before; defining what I want, who I want to be, and what gifts I want to share with the world with love... Read More

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August 17, 2019

Nothing to prove | The Daily Vulnerable

by Ore Fakorede It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that it’s always up to me to decide what to care about. In the plainest term, here’s what would happen if I tried to care about everything: I’d drive myself crazy. From pleasing the uncle who has made himself a mentor-overlord, to giving a stranger’s... Read More

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August 10, 2019

Who are we? | The Daily Vulnerable

by Jonathan Brakarsh Most of us are striving to be stronger, smarter, cooler, richer, more beautiful and many other things. When we step out, presenting ourselves to the world as who we would like to be, we are one person and when we lay in our bed, sleepless at night, thinking our private thoughts we... Read More

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August 3, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable: Compassionate humans

contributed by Kui Wamithi The more I proceed through this journey called life, the more I learn that people need room. They need room to grow. Room to figure themselves out. Room to flow at their own pace. Room to just be. If we could be brutally honest, most of the time we’re all kind of winging... Read More

The Daily Vulnerable | Facing Fear (again)

(contributed by Francesca Onomarie Uriri) Recently, my brother had a health challenge that was frightening, debilitating, and quite frankly, difficult to describe. As I kept vigil by his bedside I struggled to fight off the overwhelming sense of despair and darkness I felt. Why is this happening? Why do I have to deal with something... Read More

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July 13, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Mid-year Crisis

The past few days a strange cloud has hovered my spirit. I struggled to report to work and when I did, tardily, even my attire conveyed reluctance. I dreaded staff meetings – they were like pressure cookers and court sessions: heightened scrutiny, finger pointing, unrealistic work plans. One of such meetings was to review a... Read More

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July 6, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | The greatest gift my mother gave me

When I came out of secondary (high) school in 2000, I was 15. That meant that, though I had excellent grades, I couldn’t get into university in Nigeria, where the age to qualify for admission was 16. Advice began to stream in for my mother:swear an affidavit increasing his age, find someone to bribe, or... Read More

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June 29, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | You have two spirals

With every day that you wake up; with every circumstance that you face, every person you have an interaction with, you have the choice of two spirals. You can spiral down – which means you react to the situation with fear, or shame, or anger, or frustration, or bitterness, and then you make a bad... Read More

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June 22, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | ‘Normal’ is a loaded word

You want to be normal, right? And ‘normal’ means have a job people understand, have a body as flawless as in science textbooks, have a wife or a husband and two kids. You want to not be a child of divorce, have a mother who speaks perfect English and siblings who don’t embarrass you in... Read More

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June 15, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Don’t lie

Don’t lie to yourself, about what the opportunities that exist in your industry are, because someday ahead you will have to confront that lie and the illusions you created around it, and your heart will still be broken. Instead, embrace what the reality is today and plan through it. Don’t lie to yourself that your country... Read More

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June 8, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | It’s actually simple

Life is actually simple. You’re in a relationship that’s hurting you? Step out of it. It’s a marriage and you’re not working so you need the security? Ask yourself if you’re absolutely sure you can’t survive without him, and if you can’t (I highly doubt it), have a plan for how much longer you will... Read More

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June 1, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Your life is important already. But do you know it?

Everyone wants to be, for instance, Barack Obama, the star who made history and changed the world and will never be forgotten. But do they want to be pre-Presidency Michelle, when she took the painful decision to suspend her high flying career and support her husband in a very risky venture that would have likely... Read More

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May 25, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | The energy to live

I was walking up the stairs of my house the other day, normally, sprightly, when suddenly I remembered something that wasn’t working as well as it should, and it made me momentarily sad. Immediately, my steps slowed, my strength flagged, climbing up suddenly became more stressful. Just in that second that my mind flashed over... Read More

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May 18, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Stretch is good

Knowing who you are and how you best function doesn’t mean you should close your mind and actions to other possibilities, or even just to the opportunity to stretch yourself every now and again. I do things I don’t enjoy, or that don’t come easily to me every now and then. But, this is the beauty... Read More

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May 11, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Leaking

I have spoken twice about emotional leakage – and in context, I have used it to explain when the parts of yourself that need improvement, or that you are working on still manage to show themselves in your reflex responses to situation – without your conscious permission. It’s not often a negative thing however, in cases where you need release. Except... Read More

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May 4, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Love and duty

When you die, if you are West African like I am, your kinsmen will most likely rally around and arrange your burial. Those who hated you and cursed you out and didn’t once celebrate with you when you were alive will donate at family meetings, they will wear the burial uniform; they may even cry... Read More

April 27, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Pay attention to yourself

Stop looking for signs of your own progress in other people’s eyes or actions. You know where you are coming from, you know where you are going, and you know how far you have already come. If you have a trusted accountability partner, maybe a friend or a family member, who can help you without... Read More

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April 20, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Accountable

I like to make a small difference between holding myself responsible for something or holding myself accountable. The former means I am to be blamed for the situation. But the latter means I wish to do even better next time, even though I did nothing wrong. I had a young mentee for a few years.... Read More

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April 13, 2019

Decide for yourself | The Daily Vulnerable

When people come to meet me for advice, they often want me to look into my life’s situations and tell them exactly what to do. And sometimes that is very effective. Others have done same for me to good effect. But in the same way, others have done same for me to crippling effect. What... Read More

April 6, 2019

The Daily Vulnerable | Sorry, but your fears are boring

I always laugh when younger people tell me in an urgent voice, the voice you use when you have something deeply important to discuss with someone else; something that hasn’t happened before, that’s momentous, that’s out of this world. “Chude, I really need to see you; I really need to talk to you about something... Read More

March 30, 2019

Rookie mistake | The Daily Vulnerable

I used to make this mistake a lot, and today I continue to be surprised when people make that elementary mistake. People get unhappy, and they assume the solution is somewhere outside. Once, they get a new job, go to a new country, get a new lover, buy a new car, get a new breast,... Read More

March 23, 2019

How does one deal with insecurity? | The Daily Vulnerable

Therapy helps. But when it comes to emotions, therapy is about management more than anything else. And what you want is a shift in consciousness. I like those who request that you go to spirit. Spiritual thinkers and teachers across traditions teach you that beyond management, what you need is a reset. Therapy helps with... Read More

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March 16, 2019

Good grief | The Daily Vulnerable

You know when you break up with someone you shouldn’t have been with, end a business partnership you shouldn’t have entered, quit a job you shouldn’t have managed, send a person with negative energy out of your life, or anything like that, you know how you hate the fact that you supposedly allowed yourself be... Read More

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March 9, 2019

You can learn a lot from driving | The Daily Vulnerable

No matter what other drivers are doing, you can’t move forward if you spend your time looking at them. Some other people have faster and better cars, you will be foolish to try to do with your car what your car is incapable of doing. You’re all on the same road, but you aren’t going... Read More

March 2, 2019

“Your mother doesn’t know what she is talking about” | The Daily Vulnerable

One of the interns at one of our companies came to spend an evening with me – he had things that had been worrying him for a while about his life and growth and he wanted to share. In the midst of sharing, he talked about his mother. “The other day,” he shared. “She said... Read More

February 23, 2019

Does it honour you? | The Daily Vulnerable

That relationship you’re in, that friendship you’re participating in, that business you’re running, that church or mosque or temple you’re attending, that girl that’s flirting with you, that restaurant you go to eat in… Does it honour you? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Does it pull you gently, firmly along the path... Read More

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February 16, 2019