The Daily Vulnerable: How do you want to feel?

Birthday drenched in tears

By Ado Aminu The phone rang for the eighth time, and that was all I could stand, so I pulled it away from my ear before it could inform me that “the person you are calling is busy, please call after sometime.” I ended the ongoing call and switched to Twitter; that ever-dependable social app, in... Read More

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April 1, 2020

Sorry, but he is not that alone

by A. M. I had just gotten off a phone conversation with a colleague. He was home with family, practising distancing from the rest of the world, but this call was important – it had to do with some unfinished business at the office, or so I had convinced myself. But after a few minutes... Read More

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March 31, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: Nope

It’s easy, sometimes to say. For some others, not easy for me to enforce. While it seem to me that society for getting to yes at the detriment of its denial, a ‘no’ clears through the noise, sticking only to what I truly want. It’s fine to remind myself that I can say it, stick... Read More

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March 30, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: Treasure your memories

by David-salt Ayodele I was having a down moment recently, so I met up with an older friend to have a spirit-lifting conversation without talking about the core. After discussing many unrelated topics, he left me with a parting word that broke me through the moment. “Treasure your memories,” he said. I startled as my... Read More

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March 28, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: Living a joyful life

It. Is. Possible. To suffer without losing the sense of what makes you human; To face hardship without being heartbroken; To live a joyful life, in spite of whatever happens. In less than 2 minutes, this video explains how: [embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMyYb-bhTrU[/embedyt]

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March 28, 2020

Feedback Friday: “Relax and do my thing”

Fellow traveller, We love reading your emails, thoughts, and feedback about the TDV pieces you read. We are blessed to be part of your life, every day, in the most honourable way. We look forward to holding one another as we do life together. We’ll share one feedback from this community. Keep them coming; we read every... Read More

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March 26, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: My guest list

by Yanmife A. I have a limited number of guests allowed to visit me at home; I have had this cap for several years. This time around, I struck out the names of guests I don’t want to entertain. Guests that take more of my resources than they deserve. Fear. Panic. And social media-induced anxiety.... Read More

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March 25, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: Letter to self

by The Daily Coach Dear Self, I write to provide guidance, comfort, and some perspective as you navigate the unchartered realities of COVID-19. While there is no perfect game plan or leadership manual to deal with these times, the essence of your human spirit has been equipped to win the days ahead. When confronted with... Read More

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March 24, 2020

Rest

I have seen people close to me who have experienced stress, and panic, and fear. People who find ways to heal by being part of community, by stating affirmations and knowing when not to be alone. Several human beings can withstand a week without water, two without food and years of homelessness. But loneliness? No.... Read More

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March 23, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: To-do list

by Kara Cutruzzula Yesterday I had a nice long list of things I’d like to accomplish. I did…two things? And those two things felt good, they felt like something. But then I thought, what exists beyond my list? So I wrote some lyrics and shared them with a friend. And that one thing felt good, that felt... Read More

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March 21, 2020

Oh Yes! You can choose your thought

Here is a practical exercise that shows you how: [embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIkirYVx0eE[/embedyt]

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March 20, 2020

Chude Jideonwo: Happy now?

When I tell people that the work we do is teach people how to live happy lives, I like the bewilderment in their faces. It is so simple and almost so daring. Such a quest is supposed to be flimsy. Except that it isn’t. Of course. It’s the whole point of being human. We have... Read More

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March 19, 2020

Freeing up and letting go

by Jamie Varon As most people know, I’m currently working on a book. I’m strapping in for a long process, knowing that it takes anywhere from 2-10 years for a book idea to be formulated, proposed, written, and then eventually published. It’s an ambitious long-term pursuit, one that has no guarantees of any kind, and... Read More

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March 18, 2020

I love a rejection

by Kara Cutruzzula What would happen if you loved your rejections? Yesterday I got a notice that my film script didn’t progress in a competition. It was a tiny flicker of disappointment. I wasn’t totally heartbroken; in fact, it made me remember that I almost didn’t submit. The application was closing in five minutes when... Read More

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March 17, 2020

The problem of love

by Fatima Allahnanan Mohammed It is easier to exit a relationship and very hard to exit a marriage – so I have learnt. There is this distressing truth about love that leads to marriage. Its surface is so lovely, every dig comes with surprises mixed up with catastrophe. When two lovers make a vow to... Read More

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March 14, 2020

It’s spiritual and authentic

Every minute of your life is a spiritual experience, If you learn not to confuse what is happening to you with who you are. He gets it, and explains it in this video: [embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zoRuapZ2rU4[/embedyt]

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March 12, 2020

Influencer

by Mohammed Halwa If your reaction to senselessness has always been to cuddle it till it softens, or until I realize that it is my own brand of senselessness that allows me to expect the senselessness of others to succumb to my own whim. There is only a certain amount of things that one can... Read More

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March 11, 2020

When fear calls

by David-salt Ayodele I had just delivered an excelent job to one of our partners, with high reviews and congratulatory messages flowing in. During a post-mortem in the midst of this celebration, I froze. I felt a sensation in my heart. I discovered that I felt fear – of not doing this better another time,... Read More

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March 10, 2020

The healing power of crying

by Mohammed Halwa I have practiced ‘conscious feeling’ for a week now and yesterday I found myself slumping into a chair and breaking down in tears in the middle of a mostly uneventful day. I had just been put on the spot in what I felt was an unfair circumstance, and as a result, I... Read More

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March 9, 2020

The Daily Vulnerable: Happily human

by Ponmile Shittu Sometimes in January 2014, I found the true meaning of being human and how to be a happy one. “To be truly human is to truly know that someone who hides can’t be known. We were created to need each other, to be honest with each other, to love each other, but... Read More

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March 2, 2020

Working on joy | The Daily Vulnerable

by Damola Morenikeji Recently, a friend told me about what is being done in her company to make staff happy and engaged. I laughed when I heard it, and knew the effects will not last. I had just spent an hour in her office – and from what I saw, the perks wouldn’t do the... Read More

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February 29, 2020

Choose your thoughts | The Daily Vulnerable

You can choose your thoughts. A practical exercise shows you how: [embedyt] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIkirYVx0eE[/embedyt]

February 28, 2020

Over-react | The Daily Vulnerable

by Ponmile Shittu A couple of months back, I probably wouldn’t have given thought to if or why people overreact. However, in recent times it has become quite obvious that a lot of times, we let our strong emotions take over, we over-think situations, we analyze wrongly and then we overreact to them. Often times... Read More

February 27, 2020

For her | The Daily Vulnerable

by Fatima Allahnanan This is for her Whose stepfather kept a cutlass by the side Thrusting forcefully into her While his wife is away for her merchandise In the same bed he sex his wife In the same bed he sex her mother This is for her Who cried every-night her mother is away Who... Read More

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February 26, 2020

Silence and words | The Daily Vulnerable

by Ado Aminu Silence is golden, they say, until it staunch the tide of welling emotions that will otherwise have trickled manageably, drip by small drips, bringing delicate release and no more. I have been silent for most of my growing up and then grown years. My nanny (rest her soul) will tell it if... Read More

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February 22, 2020

Protect your time | The Daily Vulnerable

by Kara Cutruzzula What’s the most important part of your day? Maybe it’s your morning routine — you love the quiet moments with your best friend. (Coffee.) Or maybe it’s collaborating with your colleagues. Feeling stimulated by your work. Maybe it’s the few pages you read during lunch, or the few minutes you spend in... Read More

February 20, 2020

They don’t understand | The Daily Vulnerable

by Bimpe Aliu I have made it a habit to be okay with knowing that some people can’t understand. That’s not because I’m not saying it enough, not because I haven’t repeated this sentence more than four times. But because when I stutter, as I have every time I talk since primary school, and realise... Read More

February 19, 2020

Lies I believed | The Daily Vulnerable

by Damola Morenikeji Maybe you’ve heard those lies too, and believed them. “Women can multitask better than men. As a man, you should learn how to multitask.” “Fish stink from the head downward.” “One of the hallmarks of a responsible person is achieving work-life balance.” “Everything is equally important.” One other classic one is about... Read More

February 17, 2020

Men are broken | The Daily Vulnerable

by Ore Fakorede Many boys are raised to feel and express a narrow range of emotions: courage, anger, pride, tough stuff. “Big boys don’t cry.” “Be strong.” “Boys don’t say they love other boys.” So we grow up with a twisted sense of what manhood means and a deep-rooted lack of empathy for ourselves, never mind... Read More